Yes, money can make you happier, says Mike Norton

MikeNortonLike me, you’ve probably read about research showing that money doesn’t make us happy (above a certain baseline). In fact, household income in the US has gone up for the last 30 years while life satisfaction has decreased.

But Mike Norton, a professor at Harvard Business School, has done a lot of research to show that in fact, money CAN make you happier if you spend it the right way. I was so inspired by reading about it that I went to meet him when I was thinking about starting Happier. I can report that in addition to being really smart he is also just awesome.

Happy MoneyI recently interviewed Mike about what makes him happier and how we can spend money in ways that makes us more satisfied. He also has a new book called Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending, which he co-authored with Elizabeth Dunn. It’s decidedly unboring and has inspired me to think about and change some of the ways I prioritize spending money.

So, Mike, what makes you happier?
Ideas! Nothing is more fun than meeting new people and coming up with new ideas about how “the humans” (as we social scientists call them) work. And the very best ideas are those that have the potential to give people guidance on how to inject more happiness into their lives – a topic my co-author Liz Dunn and I have been studying for a decade now.

You’ve studied money and happiness for a long time now. What’s the biggest myth people believe about how money can make them happy?
The biggest myth is also the most pervasive and hardest to shake: more is better. Research shows that after people hit a certain amount of income (some estimates say around $75,000 a year), the next few thousand bucks really doesn’t affect their day to day happiness all that much. What we suggest people should think is not “Do I have enough money to be happy?” but rather “Am I using the money I have now in the best way to wring the most happiness from every dollar?”

If I have $20 to spend, what would you suggest I do spend it on to feel happier?
This one is easy. Buy an experience for someone you care about, and, geez, since that person is going, why not tag along with them? Not only does spending our money on others make us happier than spending on ourselves, but buying experiences makes us much happier than buying stuff. And spending time with loved ones is a huge happiness booster.

What’s the last thing you purchased that made you happier?
The last thing I purchased that made me happier was actually something I didn’t purchase. I got all wrapped up in wanting to buy a new fancy flat screen TV, spent hours comparing models, and then remembered my own advice – quit buying stuff. In fact one of the best ways to use your money to get happy is simply to stop using it to buy stuff that doesn’t pay off in happiness. I can’t say I always catch myself before I click ‘Buy,” though.

 

What makes you happier, Brian Kalma?

We’re pretty psyched to talk to Brian Kalma this week and find out what makes him happier. Not only do we think he’s a pretty awesome part of the start-up scene in Boston (currently cranking over at Ministry of Supply), but he is a kickass UX designer who got his stripes at a little-know company called Zappos. Follow Brian on Twitter @krianbalma.

briankalma2So Brian, what makes you happier?
I have found that what tends to boost my happiness levels are moments when I see progress towards goals. I used to think the pathway towards being happier was purely about following passions, while I still believe it is a pathway I am starting to learn that there are many happy moments that live outside the boundaries of passion.

Have you realized something about being happier that maybe you didn’t when, well, you were younger?
Yes, basically I learned how much my attitude in general aids my ability to be happier. When I was younger I waited for things to come to me, and when they did not I was sad or upset. As an adult (by age only) I realize that I control my ability to be happier way more than I ever could have imagined in my younger years.

You spent a good part of your career at Zappos, a company whose tagline is “Delivering happiness.” What did you learn there about being happier?

Simply put I learned how the happiness of others can assist my ability to be happier. Thus nudging me even more in the direction of positive thinking and action.

As a user experience designer, what are your favorite parts of your job?
Seeing people smile using products I design. Also, I get kicks out of solving defined problems, makes me smile!

Favorite happy food of all time?
Chicken cutlets!!!!

What makes you happier, Lisa Stone?

series_whatmakesyouhappierThis week we are thrilled to talk with the awesome Lisa Stone, co-founder and CEO of BlogHer, award-winning journalist, and just a really insanely great person. You can follow Lisa on Twitter @LisaStone.

What makes you happier, Lisa?
Laughing at The Onion with my amazing teenage boys. Walking our Australian Cattle Dog with @ccarfi late at night. Riding my bike – anywhere! Baking…ANYTHING!

lisastoneHave you realized something about being happier that maybe you didn’t know when you were younger?
Love is how you spend your time — work and at home. The children won’t remember the clean house and they don’t understand the job for most of their young lives. They will remember that you cracked a joke and told them they are your own personal rock stars every time you sent them out on their day.

Don’t be afraid to squash anything toxic around you — friends, habits or plastics.

Forgiveness starts with forgiving your own self. LET IT GO.

Generosity is contagious.

Write short.

You’ve built BlogHer into a really successful company. What have been some of the happiest moments along the way?
Paying 5,000 women — and men! — $25 million from 2009-2012. These checks pay for groceries, rent, mortgages, nice things and small business growth!

Creating 64 jobs in media.

Laughing with my co-founders, Elisa and Jory, whose partnership is even stronger after eight years together.

Watching President Barack Obama talk about the quality of conversation on BlogHer.com as he introduced/opened BlogHer ’12 in NYC via live video.

If you’re having a rough day, what are your standbys for a positivity boost?
Coffee. My baby sisters and brother — texts, emails, calls. Prayer.  Working out.

What advice would you give your kids about being happy?
Thank you for all you have given me.

You can call me any time about any thing in the world.

Happiness is a gift economy — the more you give to other people — love, charity, faith, hope — the happier you will feel.

Keep working out.

Cut out the toxins — people, habits, substances. But not cinnamon rolls or pie.

Find something that makes you laugh and go read it.

Call your mama, she will lift you up :)

What makes you happier, Peggy Fitzpatrick?

series_whatmakesyouhappierThis week we chat with the super energized Peggy Fitzpatrick. Always rockin’ a positive attitude she is a writer who is passionate and active in social media. You can follow her on Twitter @PegFitzpatrick.

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What makes you happier, Peggy?
My family makes me happier. They make me smile and share my life with me. Smiling makes me happier and shares “the happy” with other people.

What advice would you give your younger self about being happier?
I would tell younger me not to worry about what other people think. What really matters is that you try to be the best person that you can be and make the right choices for YOU. Also, when nosy or rude people ask questions, you don’t have to answer them unless it’s something that you feel comfortable talking about.

You’re having a bad day. What’s your go-to for a quick boost of happy?
Music! I love to start the day off with music to work by, music to get my toes tapping and sometimes to reframe the mood. If the weather is gloomy, I’ll wear bright colors and listen to some fun show tunes or Disney music. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood while listening to music from Enchanted.

Favorite quote that inspires you?
“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.”
— Mother Teresa

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What makes you happier, Chris Widner?

series_whatmakesyouhappierFor our ‘What makes you happier?” interview series today we chat with Chris Widner, one of our very early beta users. Besides being just awesome, Chris has one of the best titles at work we’ve come across: Customer Experience & Corporate Culture Evangelist. From what he tells us this means he spends a lot of time trying to figure out how to make people at work, well, happier. You can follow Chris on Twitter @chriswidner.

WhatChrist makes you happier, Chris?
Jesus, my wife, my kids, great food (especially BBQ or TexMex), good music, golf naps, learning something new.

Have you realized something about being happier that maybe you didn’t when, well, you were younger?
Standard of living does equal quality of life. Chase a great quality of life. That’s what people mean by “money doesn’t buy happiness”.
Favorite feel-good movie?
Swingers or Grease.
What’s the last thing you smiled about?
Looking at pictures of my family while selecting my pic for this interview.
What do you dig about using Happier?
Happier reminds me to take the time to enjoy the moment or recall a great moment from the day. I also realized that although I focus on my career quite a bit it doesn’t lead to as many Happier moments as my family does. It’s in 2nd place in Happier, but by a considerable difference.

What makes you happier, Britt Reints?

series_whatmakesyouhappierThis week we chat with Britt Reints – a writer, traveler, mom, blogger and someone who shares our passion for finding small happy moments in everyday. Britt blogs at In Pursuit of Happiness and you can also follow her @missbritt.

What makes you happier, Britt?
I think two things that I’ve learned that make me happiest are creating things and connecting with people. And travel will always be one of my most beloved things.

Have you realized somethinbrittreintsg about being happier that maybe you didn’t when, well, you were younger?
I used to think that if I could be more like other people, I would be happier. I’ve realized since that I am more like other people than I realized, AND that a lot of people who appear “normal” aren’t as happy as I’d like to be.

 

Your absolute favorite happy place is…
On a warm beach by the ocean.

What advice would you give your kids about being happy?
The biggest thing I hope my kids hear is that they can choose happiness. They still seem convinced that what happens to or around them is what makes them happy.

What do you dig about using Happier?
My favorite part is seeing what makes other people happy!

Check out our last week’s What makes you happier? interview with Susan Wagner of The Working Closet!