Research shows trying to be happy makes you unhappy — and we agree!

A few days ago I opened my inbox to find a dozen emails from worried friends. They all sounded a bit like this:

Hey, just saw this article about how trying to be happy is actually making people miserable. You should read it. Worried about how this will reflect on what you guys are doing with Happier.

Here’s the article everyone was sending me: The Problem With Happiness.

It talks about several studies in which researchers showed that trying to be happy is actually making people less happy. For example:

In one study, people were asked a number of questions about how much they value happiness and how much they believe it is important to work toward being happy. People putting the greatest emphasis on being happy reported 50% less frequent positive emotions, 35% less satisfaction about their life, and 75% more depressive symptoms than people that had their priorities elsewhere.

I might have surprised my worried friends when I wrote back to each of them to say that actually, I couldn’t agree with the article more. You see, we created Happier based on the idea that chasing some big nirvana state of happiness does absolutely nothing to make us happier — and sometimes, like researchers have shown, achieves the opposite.

Focusing on small happy moments in every day life and appreciating them, connecting with friends and people you care about, doing nice things for others, spending time with positive people — these are the behaviors that multiple studies have shown actually do make people happier, more positive and optimistic. At Happier, our mission is to inspire millions of people to do just that and hearing from so many of our users about how doing this makes them happier is more powerful than any research study I can imagine.

 

 

 

Help us support Boston and The One Fund

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Dear Happier and Boston community,

Happier is a Boston-based happiness company, so when our beloved city was torn apart by the Marathon tragedy our hearts were broken. But we were uplifted by the countless acts of courage, kindness and the outpouring of support for Boston we saw from our community in Happier. (We shared a few of these moments on our blog a few days later.)

We believe that moments of beauty and goodness and yes, even happiness, can be found in even the bleakest of situations. Help us help those who need our support by telling us how Boston makes you happier.

For every happy moment you share in Happier during the week of May 13th about how living in Boston or working in Boston or just thinking about Boston makes you happier, we’ll donate $1 to The One Fund.

The Boston moments you share will become part of a Traveling Wall Of Happy Moments that we hope to share with the hospitals that helped the injured and are continuing to help the healing. Life is made up of moments. Share yours with us. Together we can make Boston stronger — and happier — again.

Please share your happy moments from the Happier app. To download it, please click here.

Thank you,

Nataly & the Happier Team

Meet the Happier team: Ian, our lead iOS developer

Someone asked me the other day what I love most about being CEO at Happier. I had to think a while and that is awesome — there were a LOT of choices for an answer. Working on something I am beyond passionate about that can actually improve people’s lives. Creating something I’ve dreamed of for a long time. Working with an absolutely incredible team which feels more like family most days. Yes, that. Our freaking incredible team :)

So I am psyched to introduce the members of team awesome… I mean, team Happier, to you through a series of interviews I did with each person. Kicking it off with Ian Albert, our lead iOS developer and truly the funniest person I know.

photo_ianIan, what do you do at Happier?
I’m the lead iOS developer at Happier. I take the designs Sarah (our UX lead) creates and turn them into bugs. I mean screens. I’m also the unofficial office cartographer and ‘peeler of plastic’ off new gadgets.

Who did you want to be growing up?
I actually grew up expecting to be an artist, because I was always drawing. In my teens I thought I’d be more of an architect. Still drawing, but with the nerdy technical stuff I’d always gravitated towards. Then I discovered computers and fell into mostly user interface development, so that visual arts stuff still enters into my work, despite the more technical nature of my profession.

Hidden talent?
I juggled a lot in college, because that’s what dorks do in college. I used to juggle swords and torches, and I even managed to juggle 7 balls on a few occasions. I also know way more about writing systems and typography than is healthy or appropriate.

One skill you’d love to have…
I sort of wish I were better at business. I have lots of ideas and work on lots of personal projects that I never do anything with. I wish I had the drive to turn that into huge, profitable business. As is, I content myself to align with others who have that skill.

When not at Happier you’re most likely…
Playing pool, reading way too many Wikipedia articles, drinking Guinness, and (when I have time) working on one nerdy personal programming project or another.

Favorite work perk?
Apart from having a dedicated beer fridge, the best is getting a constant stream of feedback from users about some new feature I wrote and hearing that they love it. Few jobs have that kind of direct positive feedback. I love it.

Favorite authors…
I enjoy Neal Stephenson, especially Cryptonomicon. My favorite book of all time is Cannery Row by John Steinbeck, which I reread from time to time. Most of the books on my shelf tend to be nerdy reference books though. Yes, that hardcover Unicode specification IS mine, and yes I DID buy it with my own money for personal use.

It’s Sunday afternoon and you’re hungry. You reach for…?
I’m probably the only non-foodie at Happier, so I reach for leftover pizza, PB&J, or a beer from the fridge.

One question I’ve not asked you that you’d like to share:
Q. If an airplane sits on a conveyor belt with the conveyor speed matching the forward speed of the aircraft but in the reverse direction, can the aircraft take off?

A. Yes, because the propulsion works against the air, not the ground. The wheels can spin in any direction at any speed without making a difference to the forward motion of the airplane.

Boston, we love you!

Happier is based in Boston and yesterday was just a normal working day for the team until the horror of the bombings at the Boston Marathon. When we heard the news everything came to a halt. Like many others we jumped on Twitter, major news sites, and our phones to check on friends and family. Some of us had friends running, many of us had friends helping out along the route or waiting in the grandstands. We were lucky and everyone we knew was OK, at least physically. I think it’s fair to say that few people in Boston were OK emotionally or are feeling OK today.

What happened was scary, sad, tragic, infuriating, and shocking. I felt in a daze for an hour or so, with pangs of memories from living in New York in the aftermath of 9/11. I am not a crier but I really wanted to cry. And then I opened Happier on my phone.

If you’re not familiar with our app, we have a Discover tab which shows happy moments form our community. We look at all the moments people share publicly and select some to be featured on this tab. I probably handle 70-80% of selecting which content to feature, wearing my second hat as editorial lead for the team until we are able to hire someone. When I opened Happier and went to our internal tool to select moments for the Discover tab, I no longer wanted to cry. I felt literally lifted up by the outpouring of kindness, support, strength, resolve, and genuine incrediblness from the Happier community. Yesterday was not a day to feel happy or even happier, but what I learned from our users is that it was absolutely a day to find something positive in the aftermath of the tragedy and focus on that instead of giving into the monsters who caused and reel in their awful.

This is a difficult post to write without sounding opportunistic or self-serving but I felt such a compelling need to share this that I am taking the risk. Below are just a few of the happy moments our community shared yesterday (all of these were shared publicly). For each one here there were hundreds more just like it. I wanted to share them here as our small tribute to everyone affected by the tragedy.

Boston, we love you, we are proud to be part of you, and we are here to do our part in helping you stand stronger, and brighter, and awesomer.

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How to be happier: Stop multitasking.

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If you think you’re a multitasking hero, think again. When you switch away from what you’re doing to do something else – like say, answer an email during a meeting, which we’ve all done – you’re increasing the time it will take you to finish your primary activity by 25 percent.

Getting stuff done is an awesome feeling — it makes you happier. So here’s something to try this Monday:

Focus on doing just one thing at a time.

Don’t check your email while you’re working on something else. If you need to take a call step away from your computer. If you’re going out to grab coffee let yourself have a few minutes to just drink the coffee, not check email or talk on the phone at the same time. Give multitasking a break and see how you feel. It might turn out you get more done.

Smile, it’s good for you!

You’ve probably heard that smiling can positively affect your mood, right? Well there’s some new research to confirm that something as simple as a smile can impact how you feel:

A study published in the journal Psychological Science in November found that people who smiled after engaging in stress-inducing tasks showed a greater reduction in heart rate than people who maintained a neutral facial expression.

A reduced heart rate means lower stress and anxiety, both of which we would all like to feel less than more. It also turns out that even a fake smile can have significant benefits, although studies have shown that when you actually find something to smile about, they are greater.

 

 

How to be happier: Plan something to look forward to.

I was putting my daughter to bed tonight and she said “OMG, I am so excited for school tomorrow, it’s finally Monday!” (She is 8, going on 15, in case you wanted a frame of reference.)

This made me think about how differently she feels about Monday from say, well, most of us, adult people. I love what I do and yet I always experience what I call the ‘case of the Sunday nights’. Maybe it’s somehow part of the adult DNA.

So to help you have happier Mondays we’re kicking off a Mondays Made Happier series on our blog. Every Monday we’ll share a tip on how to be happier or something to inspire you to find more happy moments in your Mondays. Without further ado, here’s one for today:

Plan something for this week that you can anticipate and look forward to. Anticipation is a big part of enjoyment of an activity and in one experiment, people who just thought about watching a movie they like felt more positive. 

So do this, right now. Look at your calendar and actually write down something you will look forward to. Lunch with a friend, a yoga class, 15 minutes to read a book, making time to go get your favorite coffee one morning — what you plan doesn’t have to be anything big, just something that makes you happier.

What makes you happier, Susan Wagner?

series_whatmakesyouhappierHappier Friday! This week’s “What makes you happier?” interview is with the fabulous Susan Wagner, who is a personal stylist, mom, marathon runner, blogger, and so much more. You can follow her on Twitter @WorkingCloset.

Susan, what makes you happier?

Running. I started running almost three years ago and it has changed my life; I’m more focused and better able to handle stress, and that makes me happier. In November of 2011 I ran my first half marathon; I’ve run five more sWagnerheadshot3ince and am running another in April. Training for longer races compels me to prioritize and to say no to things that don’t make me happy. Running also lets me get inside my own head in really useful ways. My long training runs function as a kind of meditation for me, a chance to sort out my thoughts and gather myself and come back to my everyday life with a more positive attitude. And because I am running and training, I eat better and rest more, so I’m healthier — and happier.

Have you realized something about being happier that maybe you didn’t when, well, you were younger?

The things that make me the happiest are most often very small things, like an unexpected hug from one of my children or a text from my husband or a phone call from a friend. When I was younger I was always counting on big things to make me happy — finishing a project or falling in love or going on vacation. I still enjoy the big things, but the little steps are what make me really happy — which means that I can find a million happy things in each day.

Favorite feel-good movie? (We don’t judge, seriously.)
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Yes, you can use email to be happier. No, really.

Chances are you don’t think of email as something that makes you happier. Most of us get too much of it, send too much of it, and check it way too often. It’s a stress-pit.

But here’s something you can do to hate your inbox a bit less and actually feel happier:

Send a nice thank you email to someone you care about — a friend, family member, colleague, anyone who has done something you appreciate. We’re willing to guarantee that it will make them smile and writing it will make you happier.

Studies have shown that staying connected to your close social network is a huge contributor to happiness and what better way to keep that connection than with a quick thank you email. (Especially when it comes on a Monday, not everyone’s favorite day.)

Have a happier Monday!