Comments on: Tuesday’s Tip – Stop using your strengths http://blog.happier.com/2009/tuesdays-tip-stop-using-your-strengths/ blog with news about positive psychology, tips for increasing happiness, video from Martin Seligman and positive psychology experts Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:43:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Andy Devenecia http://blog.happier.com/2009/tuesdays-tip-stop-using-your-strengths/comment-page-1/#comment-2105 Andy Devenecia Wed, 10 Mar 2010 10:15:24 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1985#comment-2105 VRy helpful to look into it VRy helpful to look into it

]]> By: Doug Hensch http://blog.happier.com/2009/tuesdays-tip-stop-using-your-strengths/comment-page-1/#comment-691 Doug Hensch Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:54:16 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1985#comment-691 Mike - Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I completely agree that we need to manage weaknesses. But, keep in mind there is a difference between a weakness and a non-strength, in my mind. I consider a weakness to be something that you do not have that negative affects your current situation. For instance, if a leader is overly pessimistic and does not exercise any optimism, those who are following will not continue following for long. This is a weakness. On the other hand, if a leader exercises optimism continually by saying, "Everything will be alright," but does not recognize any threats or obstacles, the followers will not believe him/her. I certainly don't advocate focusing on weaknesses but I still believe that a strength that is over-used causes problems. Thanks, again, for your energetic response! But, I respectfully disagree. Mike – Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I completely agree that we need to manage weaknesses. But, keep in mind there is a difference between a weakness and a non-strength, in my mind. I consider a weakness to be something that you do not have that negative affects your current situation. For instance, if a leader is overly pessimistic and does not exercise any optimism, those who are following will not continue following for long. This is a weakness. On the other hand, if a leader exercises optimism continually by saying, “Everything will be alright,” but does not recognize any threats or obstacles, the followers will not believe him/her.

I certainly don’t advocate focusing on weaknesses but I still believe that a strength that is over-used causes problems. Thanks, again, for your energetic response!

But, I respectfully disagree.

]]> By: Mike http://blog.happier.com/2009/tuesdays-tip-stop-using-your-strengths/comment-page-1/#comment-690 Mike Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:11:28 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1985#comment-690 I want to correct this immediately. I do understand where Doug is coming from (correct me if i am wrong) - applying our strengths in "inappropriate" situations. Example An assertive person who just expresses SOLELY his opinions even when he is "leading" a group would seem overbearing. HOWEVER, i disagree with the idea that one can "over-use" one's strengths and lead to the conclusion that one should "Stop using strengths". There can't be "over-use" of strengths Doug. There are weaknesses - they SHOULD NOT be avoided/ignored. Destroying these weaknesses can take a life time and FOCUSING on weaknesses does NOTHING but drain energy out of people. So, MANAGE your weaknesses. Please stop letting people feel that their "friendliness" is "too much" or that they need to add pessimism to their lives to "reduce" their optimism. Pure nonsense Doug. I want to correct this immediately. I do understand where Doug is coming from (correct me if i am wrong) – applying our strengths in “inappropriate” situations. Example An assertive person who just expresses SOLELY his opinions even when he is “leading” a group would seem overbearing. HOWEVER, i disagree with the idea that one can “over-use” one’s strengths and lead to the conclusion that one should “Stop using strengths”. There can’t be “over-use” of strengths Doug. There are weaknesses – they SHOULD NOT be avoided/ignored. Destroying these weaknesses can take a life time and FOCUSING on weaknesses does NOTHING but drain energy out of people. So, MANAGE your weaknesses. Please stop letting people feel that their “friendliness” is “too much” or that they need to add pessimism to their lives to “reduce” their optimism. Pure nonsense Doug.

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