Comments on: Letting Go of Grudges – Common Questions About the Happiness Exercise http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/ blog with news about positive psychology, tips for increasing happiness, video from Martin Seligman and positive psychology experts Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:43:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: exercise blog http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-2097 exercise blog Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:07:46 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1991#comment-2097 Been following your blog for a few weeks now. Great post, keep up the good work. Been following your blog for a few weeks now. Great post, keep up the good work.

]]> By: Paul Curran http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-944 Paul Curran Fri, 16 Oct 2009 10:59:07 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1991#comment-944 Hi Acacia, My personal experience of letting go of grudges has convinced me of the value of this exercise and the truth in what you say. Holding onto them hurts only ourselves. It's neither easy nor quick - I believe that everyone has their own emotional time constant - but the will to let go of grudges and the regular practice of normalising ones relationship with the 'transgressor' definitely wins through and brings us to a happier place. Paul Hi Acacia,

My personal experience of letting go of grudges has convinced me of the value of this exercise and the truth in what you say. Holding onto them hurts only ourselves.

It’s neither easy nor quick – I believe that everyone has their own emotional time constant – but the will to let go of grudges and the regular practice of normalising ones relationship with the ‘transgressor’ definitely wins through and brings us to a happier place.

Paul

]]> By: Andrew Rosenthal http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-861 Andrew Rosenthal Mon, 12 Oct 2009 13:21:55 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1991#comment-861 Thanks Ian. I appreciate your comments. -Andrew Thanks Ian. I appreciate your comments.
-Andrew

]]> By: Ian | Quantum Learning http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-850 Ian | Quantum Learning Sun, 11 Oct 2009 12:15:03 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1991#comment-850 I never saw the point of grudges. People make mistakes and some of those mistakes hurt us. But immediately after the hurt the whole thing is in the past. It's gone and nothing can change it. Holding on to it (either me holding a grudge or them feeling guilty) only keeps the mistake and the hurt alive. As you say - remembering is important so we're less likely to repeat the same mistakes. I never saw the point of grudges. People make mistakes and some of those mistakes hurt us. But immediately after the hurt the whole thing is in the past. It’s gone and nothing can change it. Holding on to it (either me holding a grudge or them feeling guilty) only keeps the mistake and the hurt alive.

As you say – remembering is important so we’re less likely to repeat the same mistakes.

]]> By: John Burik (@JohnB2) http://blog.happier.com/2009/letting-go-of-grudges-common-questions-about-the-happiness-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-790 John Burik (@JohnB2) Thu, 08 Oct 2009 11:45:49 +0000 http://blog.happier.com/?p=1991#comment-790 Acacia, I was immediately interested in this exercise. On its face it makes sense. I completed the exercise and noticed results. I gave it two informal trials for groups of patients and had mixed results. The first group reported a positive shift; the 2nd did not. I was unable to locate research on this intervention. Can you help with a citation? Thanks, John Acacia,

I was immediately interested in this exercise. On its face it makes sense. I completed the exercise and noticed results.

I gave it two informal trials for groups of patients and had mixed results. The first group reported a positive shift; the 2nd did not.

I was unable to locate research on this intervention. Can you help with a citation?

Thanks,

John

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